General Sexual Issues

The dif­fi­cul­ties dis­cussed on this page are of a gen­eral nature; for dif­fi­culi­ties relat­ing specif­i­cally to male and female sex­u­al­ity, the fol­low­ing links might be more useful:

Male prob­lems Female prob­lems

In most cases of the prob­lems listed here, as a psy­cho­sex­ual spe­cial­ist I will be able to offer effec­tive help (‘Psy­cho­sex­ual’ here merely means ‘mind-related sexuality’).

Click on the links to read more about each problem.

  • Exhi­bi­tion­ism: Some­times this is a need to shock; at other times it can be based on a dis­like of self — it’s often all about seek­ing validation.
  • Appar­ent Addic­tion: Although it is pos­si­ble that there will be some sub­tle dif­fer­ences, it is likely that many cases of appar­ent sex­ual addic­tion are actu­ally sex­ual obsession.
  • Post-coital Depres­sion: So com­mon that it might almost be con­sid­ered as ‘nor­mal’ this far more preva­lent in the male, though females can some­times suf­fer it too.
  • Post coital Guilt: Less rare than might be thought, this can affect men and women equally.
  • Mas­tur­ba­tion Com­plex: Prob­a­bly the com­mon­est form of guilt com­plex, the mas­tur­ba­tion com­plex can affect both males and females and can cause many other problems.
  • Jeal­ousy: So com­mon it can almost be con­sid­ered a nor­mal part of sex­ual life, it can some­times get out of hand and become com­pletely irrational.
  • Mas­tur­ba­tion Jeal­ousy: :This can take many forms, from a firm con­vic­tion that a part­ner mas­tur­bat­ing con­sti­tutes infi­delity, to rage that they have not waited to share the experience.
  • Ret­ro­spec­tive Jeal­ousy: In this sit­u­a­tion, one part­ner will start to ques­tion the sex­ual activ­ity and behav­iour that has existed in a pre­vi­ous rela­tion­ship, some­times in all pre­vi­ous relationships.
  • Ero­to­ma­nia: In this con­di­tion there is no sen­sa­tion that the indi­vid­ual is in any way suffering…

The above is not an exhaus­tive list of gen­eral prob­lems relat­ing to sex­u­al­ity; this is essen­tially a self-help site cov­er­ing only those sit­u­a­tions which are most fre­quently encountered.