Sexual Problems

Why is sex some­times so difficult?

For some­thing that is sup­posed to be instinc­tive, sex­ual activ­ity can cer­tainly pose a whole lot of dif­fi­culty and awkwardness!

Part of the prob­lem is that males and females func­tion in entirely dif­fer­ent ways because their lives are based on entirely dif­fer­ent fun­da­men­tal processes that were inher­ited from our ancient ances­tors; male sur­vival was always based on destruc­tion, while that of the female was based on nur­ture. The men went out to hunt and kill, the women nur­tured the young — and also the males when they returned to the encamp­ment. It is impor­tant to recog­nise that because the way you do any­thing is the way you do every­thing, the male atti­tude to sex and sex­u­al­ity was always, and still is, vastly dif­fer­ent from that of the female.

We focus on four dif­fer­ent types of sex­ual problem:

* Gen­eral prob­lems: Gen­eral types of dif­fi­culty that might be expe­ri­enced by indi­vid­u­als or cou­ples
* Male prob­lems: Prob­lems spe­cific to male sex­u­al­ity, includ­ing Erec­tile Fail­ure and Pre­ma­ture Ejac­u­la­tion.
* Female prob­lems: Female-orientated dif­fi­cul­ties, includ­ing Anor­gas­mia and Vagins­mus
* Mechan­i­cal prob­lems: By ‘mechan­i­cal’, we mean things mostly asso­ci­ated with anatomy and under­stand­ing how the body works.

Inher­ited sex­ual selfishness

Even only a cou­ple of thou­sand years ago, it was just as unlikely that the male would have sug­gested ‘an early night’ as it was that he would take any notice of the female’s sud­den headache — even if she both­ered to feign that she had one.

For­tu­nately, things are dif­fer­ent now; we under­stand the need for equal­ity and fair­ness and the right of a female to say ‘No’. Unfor­tu­nately, though, our genes have no such knowl­edge and for this rea­son, many males are unable to cope with strong women and many women are unable to shed their inher­ited sus­pi­cions about male­ness. This is so often the root of Sex­ual Stress, which can eas­ily cre­ate any of the fol­low­ing symptoms:

All of these symp­toms can, of course, have other causes; but when they are related directly to sex­ual dif­fi­cul­ties they can dis­ap­pear vir­tu­ally overnight if the prob­lem is of a psy­cho­log­i­cal nature and the right sort of help is avail­able. You can take the first step to find­ing that help by click­ing on those ‘prob­lem links’ above…